In your quest to find help with your grief, you may have come across some “quick fixes” offered over the Internet. Shame on them! What could be worse than taking advantage of someone who is grappling with a tragic loss in their life like you are?
Sadly, there is no “quick fix” to grief, but there are more effective and comfortable ways to help mend your broken heart and lead you gently back to brighter days.
You may be one of those people who would never seek professional help, or lean on a support group, or even cry on the shoulder of a trusted friend. Your grief is just too personal and painful to share openly. If that describes you, then this guidebook is sure to help you. In the privacy of your own home, you will learn all about the stages of grief and how to survive each one.
Welcome to “Back to Life!”, our comprehensive and personal Guidebook to Grief.
Back to Life – Here you will learn:
- Good, solid information on how the grief “process” really works.
- Which symptoms of grief are normal, and which are dangerous warning signs.
- Valuable and practical coping skills to help you get through each day.
- Secrets to getting a good night’s restorative sleep without prescription drugs.
- How to endure the holidays and thoughtless visitors.
- How to identify and defuse anger, guilt, and regret.
- Family changes to look for and how to keep your family intact through this tragedy.
- Just the right activities and comforting rituals to help ease you through your darkest days.
- Tried and true psychological exercises and strategies to help lessen the raw pain.
- Satisfying and therapeutic creative expressions of grief.
- Effective memorializing techniques to honor and remember your lost loved one.
- How to cling to hope and move surely towards brighter days.
I realize that not all these techniques will help you… everyone’s grief is unique, and different coping styles and approaches will work for each person. But you are sure to find something here of great value to you on your bereavement journey.
Written by an experienced critical care nurse and certified grief counselor, our excellent handbook will guide you through despair and help you learn to embrace hope and joy once again. This enlightened and compassionate approach to grief recovery is sure to help lighten your heavy burden, leading you gently towards a successful resolution… and back to life once again.
What is the book Back to Life?
Back to Life is a comprehensive, quality bereavement handbook. It consists of 73 pages that explore many aspects of grief in detail. There are 19 chapters or “lessons”, each addressing a different aspect of grief, a coping skill or a strategy for emotional survival:
INTRODUCTION: You will survive! Outlines our 19 step program towards healthy resolution of grief.
Chapter 1. In the Beginning… Is this for real? Acknowledging your pain and accepting the reality of the death. One simple thing you can do when you feel overwhelmed. Physical signs and strange sensations you might experience.
Chapter 2. Tell Your Story- It’s normal to relive the events of the death and to tell your story many times over. Here are two comforting ways you can tell your story again… when no one is around to listen.
Chapter 3. Indulge Your Grief- It’s important not to avoid or push grief away, especially in the beginning. Why your friends may try to distract you from your mourning; and how not to give in.
Chapter 4. Forgive Them- Why would someone say something that stupid and hurtful to me at a time like this? How to handle thoughtless visitors and avoid adding emotional baggage to your burden.
Chapter 5. Anger and Blame- So you are not mad about the death? Identifying hidden anger points and a simple exercise to help defuse this destructive emotion.
Chapter 6. Relief and Guilt- Of course you wish things had gone differently, but do you really deserve to feel guilty? This chapter presents a tried-and-true technique for ending the Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda mind game forever.
Chapter 7. Celebrate a Life- You’ll find it very therapeutic to create a memorial to your lost loved one. Here we present several project ideas to consider, as well as group activities to help other family members express their grief.
Chapter 8. An Academy Award Performance… Why are my friends starting to avoid me? How to reach out for the love and support you desperately need right now.
II. DIG IN FOR THE LONG HAUL – THE MIDDLE STAGES OF GRIEF
Chapter 9. The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly- It’s normal in grief to glorify your lost beloved. Learn why it is important later to explore the negatives, and an easy exercise to help you do so.
Chapter 10. Uh oh, Christmas is Coming… A recurrent theme we hear over and over…. how hard it is to deal with holidays and anniversaries. This chapter provides great strategies to help make those special days more bearable, even enjoyable.
Chapter 11. So What’s to Laugh About? Laugh? I can’t even smile! How to find glimmers of happiness to help you through the dark times.
Chapter 12. Don’t grieve alone- No one you can rely on? How to ask for the help you need; and a special group of folks who “get it”.
Chapter 13. Everyone needs a little help sometimes- Some special sources of help you might not have thought about…
Chapter 14. What silver lining? Learn which decisions to avoid for now, and for how long. Finding meaning in the death. And a little soul searching will help you realize the positives in your new life.
III. ACCEPTANCE & RESOLUTION– THE END OF BEREAVEMENT
Chapter 15. Saying Goodbye- It is healthy late in bereavement to say goodbye to your lost one; to relinquish some of the grief. Here we teach you an easy but effective way to bid farewell.
Chapter 16. Box Up the Grief- At some point, you’ll realize you need to “compartmentalize” your grief, ease it into the background so you can cope long-term. Learn simple mental and physical techniques to help achieve this goal.
Chapter 17. A New Beginning- All about new relationships, new interests, and a new outlook on life.
Chapter 18. Break the Vicious Cycle- Feel stuck in your bereavement? Tired of grieving? Ready to reclaim your freedom? Time for the big guns! Chapter 18 teaches you some very effective imagery techniques to help you take charge of your life and direct your own future.
Chapter 19. The End of Grief (Resolution)- How do you know when you are finished grieving? Signs of the resolution of grief; some helpful insights from the author.